And my kids can be ornery. Should there be an OCA (ornery children anonymous)? Seriously, I feel like it's something that mothers are ashamed of and totally try to hide (I'm guilty of it too :). But why? They are CHILDREN! They are going to misbehave. They are going to not share. They are going to throw tantrums. They are going to get sassy. And as long as it's not something that you accept or allow to happen ALL THE TIME, it's okay. They will outgrow it. They will mature and it will stop.
Again, I'm guilty of it too, but really, if you are on a play date and your child isn't sharing, it's always, "Awww _____, I know you're tired, that's why you're not sharing!" or, "Oh ______, I know you're not used to this many children, that's why you're hitting the other children." Did we ever stop and think, "Oh Mia, I know why you're throwing yourself back and on the floor when Mommy takes that crayon out of your hand because you don't like me saying no, and you're mad that I am but it isn't okay to draw on your clothes!" :)
Case in point...awhile back we had a "run-in" for lack of a better word of child that's not a fan of sharing. Every time a child had a toy "this child" (the non-sharer) would want it. And every time this child's parents would take the toy out of said child's hand and give it back to child it was taken from, the parent would follow it up with an excuse, "Oh _____, I know you're not sharing because you're tired." Then the next encounter it was, "I know you're not sharing because you're hungry...." and it just went on and on. No, the child isn't sharing because that's what toddlers do sometimes AND.THAT'S.OKAY! :)
My name is Christina and my children, who I love more then life itself, misbehave. I have a 5 year old and a one year old who have been known to throw fits, not share, hit, talk back (the 5 year old), and just plain ol' misbehave. It wasn't because they were tired, hungry, sick, overstimulated, understimulated, potty training, not potty training, etc. etc. etc. It doesn't mean that I'm not a good parent. It doesn't mean that they are spoiled. It doesn't mean that I don't discipline. It's because they are FIVE and ONE and thats what kids do. Enough said!
Shewww, that was exhilirating! :)
And for good measure...
A flashback from a little less than a year ago...